February 15, 2012
By Adam Bink
Many of you remember Ed and Derence, a couple of 41 years, who were featured in the Los Angeles Times for their story on waiting for the Prop 8 trial to conclude so they could get married (Ed had Alzheimer’s). Tragically, Ed passed on the eve of yet another hearing in the Prop 8 trial in December 2011.
To honor his passing, and to mark Valentine’s Day, Courage Campaign Institute released another video and letter from Ed yesterday:
We hope and expect the legal team on behalf of the plaintiffs will request the stay to be lifted. But there is much we, as a community, can do to show how the stay affects couples like Ed and Derence.
Here’s his letter:
Dear Courage Campaigner,
It’s Valentine’s Day. One week ago, the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that Prop 8 is unconstitutional. Judge Walker ruled the same in 2010. Yet same-sex couples still cannot get married in California. I know this because my partner of 41 years, Ed, died last December on the eve of yet another hearing in the trial. We never had the chance to get married.
This video is from his funeral. I know we’re not “supposed” to ask the courts for anything — that’s what the lawyers are for. But these judges all read the newspaper, they all watch TV, they listen to the radio. And I let this video be made because I hope they will see the suffering that is going on while this case drags on. That’s where I need your help.
Please watch this video about me and my partner Ed, and then sign in support of lifting the stay on the Prop 8 decision.
A “stay” is to prevent irreparable harm while a matter is being decided. The only irreparable harm is to people like Ed, who die before they can marry. So why the stay? Allowing same-sex couples to get married causes no irreparable harm to the people of California. By all means — resolve the Prop 8 case as it should be. But please allow people to have their dignity before it’s too late.
Derence Kernek, Palm Springs, CA